Blunt
“Are you in my bedroom… are you, are you…”
Listening to Teddy Swims reminds the pleasure that is taken when someone takes something never intended when you invite them in; beware. Caution. Think twice and ask, “Do we?*”
Before the assumption becomes, this should be welcomed. The question.* Think twice.
The person chosen is the person that is supposed to bring peace. Safety, comfort, reassurance. Funny this can be misconstrued easily. The commonly referred, “live, love, happiness” is this. All these feelings should come with a space that doesn’t bring nerves panic. Before someone else comes through that threshold make sure there is a conversation that makes sense. Be clear. Be direct. Be upfront.
Where are you in your relationship?
Are you both mentally healthy? And this one can be a loaded question. It may take some time together to figure out whether that means you live apart or not until reassurance can promise a home.
When you look at someone you have communicated love to, is it going to hurt to see them give physical affection to someone else? Most likely, yes. No matter what we all claim, the answer is yes. It is never about insecurities. It is rarely about stance, position, or accomplishment. And it is always about love.
“Do you love me?” That awkward conversation that builds tension. Plateau. Think back. Where in that anticipation was it ever thought that the conversation would ever actually give you the love story? You missed it when you pushed it. Live to the fullest. Cliche. But is it? ‘Think again.’ Give it back, the hope and the promise that life was meant to hold spontaneity gone out the window. Chuckles can find someone outside a memory that is never meant to leave a bad feeling in the response to a memory that isn’t theirs but pleasant to love itself.
Remember when as a child it never mattered what any of it meant. Innocence: ignorance must be bliss. Figures. If only it could be taken back.
Maybe it can. Coming to know yourself and fully knowing yourself can be that innocence relived. Knowing exactly what you want, how you feel, how you think, what you accept/what you do not, and being able to communicate as much will always give that innocence a place in essence. Helps that it makes it easier to know better for yourself what love should feel like when you have it because you can actually see it when it’s time to see it. That way it surprises you in a breathless realization the way it is supposed to. Don’t sell yourselves short. Love doesn’t have to cost a thing.
Let’s cut the bullshit…
“Impressions can be everlasting enough to end up the same way you came into the world…”
“…alone.”
